Holiday Social & Election Day!

It’s that time of year again. The days are shorter. The nights are colder. And everyone on the subway is sneezing your way. Sounds like time for a party!!

Come join MAsT Metro New York on Sunday, December 4, 2016 for our annual HOLIDAY SOCIAL! Here’s the deal: Bring a dish, get in FREE! We will also be holding our annual elections. Deb is running once again for Director and Sir Guy is running for Assistant Director. So, come out and be social (and cast a ballot while you’re at it – per our bylaws, current members who’ve attended at least three (3) meetings within the year are eligible to vote.)

MAsT Metro New York meets at the LGBT Community Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. From 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members/students with ID and $8 for all others. Please remember to check the board for room number.

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Upcoming @ MAsT Metro, Oct. 2, 2016: Crazy Little Thing Called Love

Special Presentation by Ms Rhonda and tomo
International Master and slave 2016

PLEASE NOTE TIME CHANGE: 1 – 4 PM

It is often debated whether love belongs as part of a Master slave relationship. To answer this however, we must first ask ourselves – what does love mean in this context? Infatuation, romantic love, family love, passionate love, companionate love, unconditional or conditional love, maternal/paternal love, love of a possession, love of a pet, soulmate love, spiritual love, brotherly love, tough love – what is this crazy little thing called love? There are clearly many ways to express and experience love. Perhaps the question is not “Love – yes or no”, but instead “Love – what type do you need?” Learning what type of love you personally require in an M/s relationship and then finding a match is crucial to success. In this class, we will discuss the many different types of love, examine how each may affect an M/s relationship positively or negatively, and learn to identify what each of us personally needs to thrive. This class is not limited to participants in Master/slave relationships; it is intended to be inclusive of all who are interested in hierarchical relationships.

Please join us for this special presentation by Ms Rhonda and tomo, International Master and slave 2016. Come share your personal experiences and let’s talk about LOVE in a supportive environment! And as always, please feel free to bring your own snack and/or something to share with the group.

MAsT Metro New York meets at the LGBT Community Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members/students with ID and $8 for all others. Please remember to check the board for room number.


Ms Rhonda and tomo Biography

Ms Rhonda is the Owner and Master of tomo and they are proud to be International Master and slave 2016 and Northwest Master and slave 2015. Members of the Leather Community for a combined total of nearly 50 years, Ms Rhonda and tomo have each presented classes and served as judges at local and national events and were producers of International Ms Leather /International Ms Bootblack Contest Weekend. They are members of MAsT: Sacramento, MAsT: San Francisco, and The Exiles. Each proud to be a member of Mama’s family, Ms Rhonda is Mama’s Femme Master and tomo is Mama’s Samurai.

Ms Rhonda is Secretary of the MAsT International Board of Directors, the 2015 Northwest Regional Representative and is Co-Director of MAsT: Sacramento. She is the founder of KinkED Productions, which provides educational events for the Northern California leather and M/s communities. tomo has been teaching Japanese Martial Arts for over 30 years and as a slave, has been deeply affected by this culture. Her leather roots are in the New York and South Texas communities where she was a founding member of the Dyke Uniform Corps.

tomo was awarded the 2013 Pantheon of Leather President’s Award.

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Special MAsT 2-Parter, 9/11/16: Sex and M/s: Yes, No & Maybe so… & The Future of MAsT Metro NY

Next Meeting: Sunday, 9/11/2016; 2-5pm

Part 1: Sex and M/s: Yes, No & Maybe so…

We don’t talk about sex much in general and interestingly enough, we don’t talk about it much in the general BDSM community, much less in M/s. But the few times I have been in on such discussions, they have often been either very brief, contentious or boiled down to simple “yes” or “no” responses. In my experience, men on either sides of the slash, for the most part, seem on the “yes” side for sex in all wonderful permutations while many topwomen say “no” to the idea of sex with their slaves. And then there are those who strictly identify as “asexual” and those of us who identify as “stone.” Also, many slaves seek “service only” arrangements sans any sexual relationship.

What’s your take on the sex/no sex/maybe sex within M/s debate? What’s been your personal experience? How do you define sex? Is sex seen as service, loving or simply recreational? Or something else?

Part 2: A Special Hour-Long Chapter Business Meeting to discuss the future of MAsT Metro NY. MAsT Metro NY was originally formed February 15, 2001. Fifteen years later, MAsT Metro finds itself struggling financially, with membership dwindling and with not enough of a core group to sustain itself. MAsT faces other challenges as group cohesion as well of the challenge of fulfilling its original purpose while still being responsive to the needs of the local community. This business meeting is to either set in place a plan for sustainability going forward or to discuss disbanding in an orderly fashion. At issue will be the disposition of MAsT’s funds, banners, documentation and website.

Please join us for these important topics. And as always, please feel free to bring your own snack and/or something to share with the group.

MAsT Metro New York meets at the LGBT Community Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. From 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members/students with ID and $8 for all others. Please remember to check the board for room number.

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Next @ MAsT: Ending an M/s Dynamic, June 5, 2016

There are many reasons for the ending of an M/s dynamic.  They include: breakup-irreconcilable differences; Divorce; Cheating, lying, stealing; Leaving an abusive situation; Moving away (family obligations, job relocations, etc); Illness/Death of partner; Leaving the “lifestyle” and/or having a “change of heart” about M/s; Simple end of contract agreement.

Besides the emotional stress of endings, there are also myriad issues involved: the challenge of amicably ending relationships; How to negotiate friendships/community relationships (ie when people take sides and spread rumors); Financial obligations (debts; support of the former slave; child support); Custody of any children and so forth.

Please come and share your personal experiences and insights on this important topic in a supportive environment! And as always, please feel free to bring your own snack and/or something to share with the group.

MAsT Metro New York meets at the LGBT Community Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. From 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members/students with ID and $8 for all others. Please remember to check the board for room number.

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Jan. 3, 2016: "Beyond communication and Into Truth and Transparency"

Please join us at Masters and slaves Together, Metro NY, Sunday January, 3, 2016 for the topic: “Beyond communication and Into Truth and Transparency”

When one can communicate, the world will open to them. Communication is more than just the ability to produce words, it affects every aspect of human development. We understand this and treat speech and language skills as the pathway that enables us to learn, grow, share, belong, enjoy, and become contributing partners in life.

But what exactly do we mean by “communication? Transparency?
What does communication look like in your dynamic?
Is transparency a goal? Or a pipedream? Does it go both ways?
What style of communication works best for you?
How does communication differ among other members of the household? How is that managed?

Come and share in a supportive environment! Hope to see you there! Please feel free to bring a snack/dish or soft drink to share with the group.

MAsT Metro New York meets at the LGBT Community Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. From 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members/students with ID and $8 for all others. Please remember to check the board for room number.

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Education in M/s Whats in your Tool Box?

Please join us February 1st for our discussion on

As we know, we like to throw the word Education around a lot in within the lifestyle, which is all fine and dandy. However, ponder this. When we focus on M/s, what is out there to assist others in understanding how to develop a foundation strong enough on which to build an M/s dynamic? How do you determine specific communication styles? What styles of reconditioning are used and why? How are you doing the back-end work? Do you read books, use the internet, go by word of mouth, or use a hands-on method (not talking about physical or scene)?

Finally, in your dynamic do you just work on the psychological and mental aspect and then take a long assessment of the emotional aspect? Or should any of this really matter?

Masters and Slaves Together Metro New York chapter meets at the LGBTQ Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. From 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members and $8 for all others.

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Jan. 4th 2015: The Far End of M/s: Consensual Non-Consent, TPE, and Internal Enslavement

Join us as we welcome NE M/s Titleholders Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny.
This meeting is open to all who are interested.

This discussion tackles the issues of Master/slave relationships that are controversial even among M/s demographics. What right – and what ability – does the master have to deeply change the slave, and how should this be negotiated? We’ll explore different levels of consent and the lack thereof, and the tricky problems of ethics and communal fear that they bring up. We’ll talk about collusion and conditioning – or is it brainwashing? – as well as how to tell what’s realistic and what’s fantasy. While we welcome a wide variety of opinions, please come with an open mind and remain courteous.

Their bios:

Raven Kaldera is a queer FTM transgendered intersexual shaman. He is the author/editor of 39 books, including “Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM and the Ordeal Path”, “Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships”, and “Power Circuits: Polyamory In A Power Dynamic”. He and his slaveboy Joshua have been teaching and presenting workshops regularly for many years to the BDSM, Neo-Pagan, Sex/Spirituality, transgender, and other communities. Raven is currently the 2014 Northeast Master titleholder, and lives with his big poly family on a homestead in Massachusetts. ’Tis an ill wind that blows no minds.

Joshua Tenpenny is Raven’s Boy, and his devoted assistant, partner, and slave for life. He is a massage therapist, Shiatsu practitioner, and yoga teacher. The current 2014 Northeast Slave titleholder, he is the author of “Real Service” and the creator of the Service Notebook. He is polymorphously perverse, and finds spiritual fulfillment through any kind of worthy service.

Masters and Slaves Together Metro New York chapter meets at the LGBT Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. From 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members and $8 for all others.

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November 2, 2014 discussion: Fiscal Responsibility and M/s

Please come and join us for another meeting of MAsT:MetroNY: A discussion group for people who identify or are interested in identifying as either Master/slave or Owner/property power exchange dynamics.
The following is a topic teaser for the November 2nd meeting:

When one thinks of the terms “Master” and “slave” one may often think of a very clearly delineated power structure wherein one person is in total charge and the other relinquishes their control. But does this control extend to finances? There have been many urban legends with regards to fiscal responsibility within the power exchange dynamic. As a result many questions have been raised.

Should the Owner be financial stable enough to provide full support to the one owned? Is it reasonable, particular in today’s economy, for a slave to expect to be fully supported by their Owner? What provision, if any, should be made for a wholly dependent slave for the possibility of dismissal? How would they then fend for themselves?

We have seen some Owners require “tribute” or financial remuneration for those in service to them. Though the perception is that it is commonly female identified Owners who do so, there are also some male identified Owners who do so as well. Is it ethical? Does their gender make a difference? Should it?

How much fiscal responsibility should be borne by the slave? Are they responsible for themselves? Should they be? And what happens in the case of accident or illness to either the Owner or the one owned? If the Owner is incapacitated and was the sole provider for the household what must be expected of the slave? What mechanisms must be put in place before one becomes and Owner or owned? If one does not have extensive resources available for contingencies does that mean that they are not qualified to be a Master?

During the many years I have been in this lifestyle I have heard a variety of viewpoints, many of which have stirred a bit of controversy. In a lifestyle that is considered “alternative” do we use mainstream sensibilities to determine how we address issues of fiduciary responsibility or should we use an alternative formula.

Masters and Slaves Together Metro New York chapter will discuss this matter at its next meeting on Sunday, November 2, 2014 at the LGBT Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. From 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members and $8 for all others.

Please be advised that there will be an extensive business meeting which may shorten the regular length of the discussion for this meeting.

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October 5th Discussion: Getting What you want from M/s

Please come and join us for another meeting of MAsT:MetroNY: A discussion group for people who identify or are interested in identifying as either Master/slave or Owner/property power exchange dynamics.

This month’s topic will be

**Getting what you want from M/s**

The following topic starter is not the general opinion of the entire group and is meant only to help generate opinions and discussions for the meeting:

Getting what you want from a relationship is never easy. Adding a power exchange makes it even harder. We tend to have specific desires, both superficial and spiritual. We are taught from a young age to treat people as you wish to be treated. If we try to use this principal in our relationships we would get no where. The “s” type would be filled with resentment. If they are giving so much to their “M” why are they not getting that in return.

How do we make it so we achieve our wants without damaging the dynamic?

I think wants and desires change and fluctuate as time passes. If we’re not getting what we want then have we picked the wrong person or are we just not being flexible with our wants? Wants such as structure, financial stability or routine can be mapped out to best fulfill them. Spiritual wants, such as complete surrender, are not that easy. How can one map out what they’re feeling will be or where their mindset will be in the future?

What is it that we are looking for when we seek M/s dynamic? What do we want to gain from that relationship and what do we want to give in return? But just answering these questions will only get you so far. You need to be able to then successfully communicate this with each other.

Please come and discuss this topic with other people that share the similar interests in Power Exchange and M/s dynamics as you.

Masters and slaves Together (MAsT) Metro New York will be meeting at the LGBT Center located at 208 West 13th Street between 7th and 8th Aves., NYC from 2 – 5 pm. Admission is only $4 for MAsT members, $5 for reciprocal group members and $8 for all others

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Sept. 7th Meeting: Masters without slaves, slaves without Masters: In the Meantime

It has been said by some that one cannot be a Master unless one has a slave. The converse has also been heard. But is that true? Is that like saying there can be no black without white?

At some time during our involvement in this lifestyle there will be a time when we are not attached or in a power exchange dynamic. What should we do then? Should we actively search for one to fill that void? Would that time be better spent in self reflection? Would this be the time to work on our skills? Would it be the time to define what it is that we are truly searching for in an M/s relationship? Should Masters take that time to consider the difference between their wants and needs? Should they revisit the type of leadership they wish to provide and the style of management they wish to employ? Should slaves seek to learn skills they believe will make them more useful? Should they concentrate on their own personal growth and development or explore just what type of slave they seek to be and what type of Master would be best for this? Is there anything wrong with being without a Master or slave for a period of time? Or is it true that one cannot be a Master without a slave or a slave without a Master?

Join us to discuss these questions and more on the subject.

Masters and slaves Together (MAsT) Metro New York will be meeting at the LGBT Center located at 208 West 13th Street between 7th and 8th Aves., NYC from 2 – 5 pm. Admission is only $4 for MAsT members, $5 for reciprocal group members and $8 for all others

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