Service: Fantasy vs. Reality
One of the first things we think about when we mention a Master/slave relationship is service. There are many views on service but how do we distinguish fantasy from reality? Many of us have read books like “The Marketplace” series and look at those views of service. Others recall the “Sleeping Beauty” trilogy and let that inform their ideas of service. Some watch “Upstairs Downstairs” and “Downton Abbey” as ideals of service. Others watch “The Flower drum Song” or “Memoirs of a Geisha.” Still others look at the military model of “Honor, Duty, Service” as a guide. And a few read stories of harems or watch “I Dream of Jeannie”.
The dictionary defines service as “an act of helpful activity; help; aid”. But is it more than that? It seems so when we look at the emphasis on service in the Master/slave community. We may hear a person say “I am a service slave or submissive”. We have heard Owners and potential Owners speak of the need of good service. So then we must ask the following questions:
• What are some of the fantasies that some have about service?
• When someone says they are “service oriented” or “service slaves”, what does that mean?
• Does a person have to be doing what is requested of their Owner to be considered as performing service?
• If slaves do something solely because of the enjoyment that they get out of it, is it service?
• Is the intent behind the service more important than the service itself?
• What does service mean to you as an Owner or as one who serves?
• Can Owners perform service also? If so, then how?
• Is it the special things like tea service or chauffeuring or preparing gourmet meals or is it the more mundane like cleaning the bathroom and doing the laundry?
• Can sex be a service?
• What are some of the misconceptions that people have about service?
• What is the reality about service within a power exchange dynamic?
• Is there any one model of service that encompasses all that is necessary within the Master/slave dynamic?
• How do the aforementioned models (Victorian, military, Middle Ages, etc.) work in real life?
• What are the requirements of service in your household?
• Are they formal or informal?
• Were there any preconceived notions that had to be corrected on either side of the slash and how was that done?
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