We have a statement in our meeting guidelines that we read at every meeting:
“During discussion, the group agrees to avoid divisive and petty arguments over clichéd disputes such as the ‘true’ definition of slave; ‘the’ difference between submissive and slave; or what dynamic is ‘real’ vs. what is not. ”
But I say let’s break our own “Cardinal Rule” for once and talk about just that. Let’s mix it up and have a couple of petty arguments over clichéd disputes. I’m willing to wager anyone who’s ever considered M/s as a way of life has considered the questions:
- What is Mastery and slavery anyway?
- What makes a slave a slave and a sub a sub?
- What’s a “Daddy Dom?”
- What’s meant by “Owner” and “property?”
- Is a Mistress the same as a Female Master?
- Does being a female dominant always mean femdom?
- What’s a girl vs a babygirl?
- And what’s with “boy” and “boi?”
I’m also pretty sure those of us who’ve been doing this for any length of time have felt at some point, that we knew the definitive answers to those questions. So, let’s get our thoughts and feelings and our own varied definitions out in the open. But let’s be clear – this is not about tearing each other down, for individual beliefs. Let us agree where we agree and disagree where we will in the spirit of understanding and building community.
Can you handle it? Can MAsT Metro NY handle such a discussion? I think we can.
And as always, please feel free to bring your own snack and/or something to share with the group.
MAsT Metro New York meets at the LGBT Community Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. From 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members/students with ID and $8 for all others. Please remember to check the board for room number.