People frequently think about power exchange relationships in terms of the play or sex, they may have images of obedience or protocols of kneeling, but they don’t always consider the service that is in the day to day nature of these dynamics. Service is a bit like a tango – it takes two people – one to give the service and one to receive the service. While types of service performed are going to look different in each relationship, there are some common roadblocks people face on both sides of the slash. Contrary to what some may believe, providing service is not always thrilling or simple even to those who enjoy it. Likewise, receiving service isn’t just about lounging on the couch watching TV while someone brings you beer and a sandwich.
Why doesn’t Sir seem to appreciate the service I do every morning when I freshly squeeze him orange juice? Does the bathroom really need to be cleaned again?
Why is he not doing the job I asked him to do or not doing it the way I asked him to? How can I allow someone to do all these things for me when I’m supposed to be self-sufficient? How do we learn to both give and receive service better so our tango will appear smooth and beautiful?Join us this month as we look at some common issues that arise in both the giving and receiving of service. And as always, please feel free to bring your own snack and/or something to share with the group.
MAsT Metro New York meets at the LGBT Community Center at 208 West 13th Street, NYC, between 7th and 8th Aves. From 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm. The admission is $4 for members, $5 for reciprocal members/students with ID and $8 for all others. Please remember to check the board for room number.